A Major Screw Up!
I’m finally going to update everyone on what’s going on with my husband Charley. Now that my children know what’s been happening with his condition and everything else. And also DB & BTude who have been here with us from the beginning.
My husband Charley is in a hospital on the Leeward coast because of an acute case of emphysema and also being complicated with pneumonia. As you all know he was put on a ventilator to help him breathe.
Well, last week Monday, the 22nd of August, Dr. B did a tracheostomy on Charley. They took him in to surgery in the afternoon between 2:00 pm and 3:00 pm. Dr. B comes out after the surgery was completed and calmly tells me that the surgery went okay, but they had a problem when they were taking him back to the room. Apparently, the trach tube was too short so as he was gasping for air the thing popped out of his throat, which caused him to go without oxygen for 32 seconds. Dr. B said that he never had that problem before with a common procedure as this one. So what is the fucking problem? Do you just fucking assume that everyone is the same? How can you make a fucking mistake like that? Dr. B says to me, your husband has a long neck and throat passage so the normal tube that we use was too short. Well, Dr. B….he has been in the hospital since August 6 with a fucking tube shoved down his mouth, and you’re telling me you didn’t know how much length was needed? Are you saying you don’t know how long the tube was that you already had in him? And so because the trach tube popped out, you shove the tube back down his mouth and scratch his insides up again to cause a little bleeding again. And also because the tube was too short and he wasn’t getting air in his lungs, the air was going through his body which made him bloat up and his head and neck looked like a fucking pumpkin! They sutured the hole they made and bandaged him up. If Kaos and Ui was there when this happened, I think I would be bailing them out of jail because the ICU station would be in shambles and the Dr would be hanging over the sides of the building!
After my husband goes through all that crap Dr B repeats the surgery on Wednesday afternoon. This time he did it correctly without botching it up. So WTF? Why couldn’t you have taken a measurement through an Xray or something the first time?
Fortunately my Charley is stable except for his white cell count that dropped to below 1 before they try to give some antibiotics. As of yesterday, it was 1.5 and they need to bring it up to at least 4-5. Which now puts him at risk to catch anything because his immune system is low, so they have him in reverse isolation. Anyone who is sick cannot go in, and when you do, you need to wear a mask and gloves. Which to me they should have done a long time ago. He is alot more comfortable with the trach and now can move his mouth and make words to tell us if he needs anything. Still no voice, but we have been reading his lips. He’s asking for coffee and food. But unfortunately he cannot take anything by mouth as yet, they are tube feeding him. They started sitting him up in the bed from yesterday. They make the bed into a chair so he can sit up more. They will be doing that twice a day as long as he can handle it. His vitals are stable except that every now and then his heart races or throws A fibs. It usually happens when he gets excited or irritated.
Is there anyone who is medically proficient enough to tell me how they can botch up a simple surgery? How can one assume that everyone is the same? No one is alike in anyway, shape or form! A simple surgery that put my dear husband in alot of stress and pain.
So, my dear friends and readers, the next time you see a picture of me, it will be with no fucking hair cause I’ve done pulled out most of it. And not to mention how upset and frustrated my children feel. 
It’s hard to go by the hospital day after day and watch someone you love so helpless and in so much pain. But he’s a fighter and is still hanging in there. I pray for him day and night. And I tell him how much I love him every time I talk to him. And I tell him how much his children love him too. And how they wish they could all be here with him. He was so happy to see the Wench and her brother Jimmy and grandson Alex. He wants to see Kamalani, but she’s not old enough to go in, and I wouldn’t want her to see him that way. Maybe when he gets better.
Well, that’s all for now, and thank you all for your prayers and support. I love you all.
UPDATE: 1:45 pm …. I talked to a Dr. today and his bloodcount is back up to 4. Good news for the day. Thank you Father God.
08-29-2005 | 10:29 | Rants
A Child Violated……..
About a week and a half ago, a child came to me crying. When I opened my front door she hugged me and cried more. I asked her what was wrong, and she said somebody did something to her. I asked her who was it and she replied that an Uncle had touched her. I was very upset and took her to her mother and told the child to tell her Mom what had happened.
This child was asleep in the grandmother’s bedroom alone, and when the Uncle stopped by the house that morning, he went into the room and shut the door. this child said that this man touched her on her leg and kissed her face. This was interupted by the Grandfather knocking on the door. She said she was sleeping till she felt someone touching her, but was scared and couldn’t move.
I asked the child to show me how he touched her. She said he was laying next to her and was rubbing his leg on hers, and was kissing her face. Who knows what might have been had not the Grandfather gone to the room to call the Uncle.
Her Mom got upset and started crying. She went to confront this man who is her brother-in-law, but he had already left. She in turn talked to a sister who lives next door to me where this child was staying. When her sister confronted their brother-in-law, he told them that all he did was try to wake her up and ask her something.
And till today, this child’s mother has not confronted this man as to what happened, but has asked him to take her somewhere to do her business. This lady is on public assistance, but gets only foodstamps because she has used up her resources for the financial part. And this man is the one that she trades her foodstamps for money with. He is a carpenter and makes good money, so she is always asking him for money. I keep asking her if she has confronted this person yet, and she says no, not yet and that she does not know what to say. In the mean time her child is afraid of this Uncle and won’t go near him. She hides when he comes around and got very upset with the mother for going this man to do her personal business.
This upsets me very much and I’m at a lost. I would put my child before anyone! If you’re not going to do something and keep using this man to get money……..why don’t you hang a fucking sign around your daughter’s neck that reads: ” It’s okay for a man to touch my child as long as I can use him for money.” WTF! It’s almost as bad as pimping your child out!
If someone ever did that to my child or grandchild…..I would fucking kill him!
How can you let someone do that and not confront this man or report it to the authorities? If he was only trying to wake this child, why did he have to lay in bed with her and lock the door? Why isn’t the family doing anything about it? It’s like they shrugged it off and say it was meaningless, he didn’t mean it in that sense. I can’t do anything because it didn’t happen in my house and it is only hearsay. I keep trying to get the mother to confront her brother-in-law, but to no avail. And the rest of the family would probably tell me to mind my fucking business.
I am just pissed, frustrated, and dumbfounded that a person would let her child be violated and not do a fucking thing about it! :# How can a mother live with herself by not doing anything? It’s beyond my comprehension because my children and my grandchildren are my life. I would go to jail if someone violated any of them!
06-10-2005 | 17:20 | Rants
Mad As Hell….
Read this first: I AM MAD AS HELL ABOUT THE WAY THINGS ARE AND I’M JUST NOT GONNA TAKE IT ANY MORE!!
Yes, I am mad as hell with people who are so lazy that they use the system all their adult life. They get so content in their world of not working and getting everything free. All they want to do is drink and do their dope! And these people make it hard for those who are really trying, but can’t get any kind of assistance. The elderly, the disabled and the handicapped who try to get help are told: “I’m sorry but you make $12.00 over the qualifying limit.” You can’t get medical help because your fixed income is too high. Now this really pisses me off. !#%*!#
Beautification in areas that don’t need them. And if you take notice, it’s always in the upper class district. What about the places where the poor folks live? Are we not considered humans, with human rights? Just because we’re poor don’t make us unsuitable or meaningless. We have feelings too. And we have rights like anyone else.
And what about the folks who are trying to get a better education? They have to struggle, try to get scholarships, and sometimes get turned down, because they are going to school so they can make a better life for themselves. These people need help and they are truly trying. They are not sitting on their asses doing nothing. They go to school and work part-time just so they can survive!
These are the ones that need help. 
I get upset when tax payers money are used on foolish, un-neccessary things. Use the money to fix the Zoo and other places that make our children happy. A place where families can go and see the joy that it brings to their childs eyes. A place where families can have fun together and don’t need to spend alot of money in doing so. Not all families are capable of spending alot to make their children happy.
And the system pisses me off when they keep giving people who abuse their children and spouses another chance. Another chance for what? A chance to kill the next time? A classmate of mine lost their grandchild because the system gave him back to his parents who constantly abused the children. The boy has been missing for over 7 years. And the parents are walking around scott free. The grandparents want justice, but the State is taking their sweet ass time. !#*#!
They also keep giving people chances who are so caught up in drugs, having kid after kid, in and out of jail. Do something about it! Make them get sterilized so they can’t have anymore children, whom only end up in foster homes for someone else to care for. And these repeat sex offenders, castrate these assholes. Don’t just incarcerate them for a few years and let them back out into society. Cut their fucking dicks off! Turn them into a girl and let someone else do to them what they did to an innocent victim. 
And the State better stop counting on the tourist to bring in revenue. Because when the airplanes don’t fly, or the cruise ships don’t sail, or the tourist decides to go elsewhere cause it’s getting too expensive in Hawaii……..what then? Who are they going to turn to? Us, that’s who! Us ordinary, hard working tax paying people who live in a beautiful State that is run by a bunch of idiots. I’m not saying that they all are idiots, but the ones who does try to help are being over ruled by the majority.
Whew! Have I said enough? I have much more to say, but it would take forever! Thank you for listening. 
06-06-2005 | 10:28 | Rants
A sad sight……
We went to the Honolulu Zoo today with the Tutu & Me Program that Kamalani is in. It was a beautiful and fun day watching my grand-daughter and the rest of the kids get all excited watching the animals in their habitat.
The main thing should have been the children having fun, but what I saw kind of appalled me. The Zoo was filthy and not well takened cared of. Some of the animals that live partially in the water were swimming around in horribly green, algae water. Very murky and disgusting looking. Especially for the baby ducklings.
They charge such an outrageous price to get in, for the kind of condition the Zoo is in. I would be so ashamed to take someone who came from the mainland to the Zoo here. The bathrooms were stink and filthy. The food was expensive and not that great. the only thing that I liked was the Smoothies that we had.
The poor lions looked skinny and sick, some of the reptiles looked like they were about to croak. Some of the animals looked alright, but it didn’t sit well with me to see how shabby the overall look was.
What is happening? Why isn’t the State and City doing something about this? Why is a public place where you take your children so unpleasing to look at. I remember how well kept the Zoo was when my children was little. We once lived a few blocks from the Zoo, and we used to walk there all the time. Now, I don’t want to take my grandchildren there. I’d rather pay $30.00 - $40.00 and take them to Sealife Park.
Am I being to critical about it, or am I right to feel the way I do? I really don’t know what to think. I feel so bad for the widlife there.
06-02-2005 | 18:16 | Rants
I Hate Harris!
I’m always hearing on the news that so and so is getting indicted for illegal contributions, or getting a contract for a job, etc. because of Jeremy Harris. For those of you who don’t know….He is the ex-mayor of the City & County of Honolulu. A whole bunch of people have already gone to jail, but this dipshit is still walking the streets. WTF!!
I never liked him and I guess I never will. I’m glad he’s finally out of office. He always likes to have his face plastered all over the media, but didn’t do jackshit for us except spend alot of unnecessary money, and try to take credit for things that wasn’t his doing. I told him straight to his face one year when he was campaigning that he was a crock of shit. He never came to Waianae for anything except when it was election time. He showed up one year at the Mall here and tried to kiss ass. I gave him a piece of my mind, so did my husband.
I just heard on the news yesterday about someone going to court on charges cause of this Jeremy Harris crap. I hope he gets his just deserve one of these days like the rest of them and see his sorry ass thrown is jail.
05-12-2005 | 21:46 | Rants
No common courtesy.
Some folks out there have no common courtesy. They tend to use other peoples designs, change it a little to camouflage it, and try to act like it’s thier brilliant idea. Instead of giving credit to the original designer, they just take and abuse someone elses artistic brilliancy. All they had to do was link back to Priss. That’s what I mean by common courtesy. Give credit where credit is due.
05-01-2005 | 17:04 | Rants
Dumbasses!
Yesterday evening my husband had an allergic reaction that made him severely ill. He couldn’t breathe, plus it was worsened because of his respiratory illness. We called 911, and of course the fire department showed up before the EMT guys as always. Then the ambulance arrives with the 2 EMT personel, and one of them was very,very rude and sarcastic. He started getting very bolsterous at my husband, who could not speak because he was having a hard time breathing. He was at the point of almost passing out and this fat shit EMT was giving all of us attitude. His partner on the other hand was such a gentleman and very respectful. I was almost at the point of telling this dumb fuck son-of-a bitch to get the fuck out of my house. We were already jittery about my husbands condition so we forget to look at his name tag. Well, anyway, doesn’t it make you wonder where some of these so called professional people get thier training? And how is it that they are not taught manners? Or do some of them get such a macho attitude because they graduated from some school to get a license for thier profession! This is not the first encounter of this kind that we have gotten from an EMT. About 7 years ago a similar situation with our nieghbors grand-daughter happened at our house. The neighbor brought her grandchild to our house, cause she was in a panic and didn’t know what to do. So we called 911. In the mean time while waiting for rescue to come, we performed CPR because the child stopped breathing. When the 2 EMT people came, they did not take over the CPR right away. They kept dalying around and tried moving her head and stuff. Then the Paramedics who also arrived at the same time, told them to hurry and do something and transport the girl right away. Sad to say the little girl passed on. I personally feel that had the EMT’s taken over what we were doing right away, she might have had a chance to live. The doctors in the emergency room revived her for a little while. Go figure! If it was my grandchild, I would have sued thier asses. And one of the EMT guys gave my nieghbor attitude and was yelling at her too. Then my yougest daughter got in his face at the hospital and he backed off. What I’m trying to say is, people like them should be more courteous and caring towards the ones that are hurting and worried about what’s goin on. I would like to thank the other paramedics and one EMT guy who approached me at the ER when I arrived a couple of minutes later, to tell me that my husband was doing okay and seemed to be getting better. Sorry, but I had to rant on this subject.
04-05-2005 | 16:30 | Rants
Unbelievable!
I just found out today that my stupid step-daughter who happens to be incarcerated again is having another kid! She can’t take care of the ones she already has, and she’s having another child. This one will probably be taken away too, and will end up in someone elses care like her other two. I don’t know what to say or think about the whole shit. I feel for my grandchildren. It’s not thier fault that thier mother is a chronic druggie and lives only for herself and that fucking shithead boyfriend of hers. I hate the fact that my grandkids have such a loser for a mother who can’t seem to get her shit together. The drugs are more important than anything else. The only good thing is that my son has her son, and he is so loved by the family. He is well takened cared of, and is so happy where he is. I want to thank my daughter-in-law Z for taking him and loving him as her own. And I want to thank her whole family for accepting him as thiers and loving him. He is such a beautiful child! We went to visit them today, and it was so nice to see how much he’s grown and nourished. Tutu loves you so much Bruddah Man. You are with a good family. You are blessed. I gave you the name” Elua ho’okupu oke akua” because you are God’s second gift to us.
04-03-2005 | 22:35 | Rants